Hello to all my fashionistas out there. It’s been a while since I have blogged. With the latest goings on in my life, I needed to get back to the hobbies that kept me sane and focused. Fashion, beauty, and keeping all of you fashionably styled one style at a time.
So what’s new? Well, I have changed my look a couple of times in the last couple of months. Experienced some stress, dealing with school, my husband being sick, visited my daughter and granddaughter, work has got me all riled up — so why not get back into the things I enjoy the most.
First up, so I felt myself losing control of my image. I thought, “oh hell no!” I worked with my hair stylist to help get me on track. Bought some new pieces to create the best ensembles — hanging out in H & M, of course — and got a hold of some really snazzy shoes. You know I had to get that back on track. I started with just keeping it simple. But the more I thought about it the more I realized I needed to boost my style.
Have you ever gotten to the point where you felt so tense and so stressed, and so full of anxiety that you needed something to give you that release, that level of comfort before you just exploded? Yeah, this is what I have been going through in the last six months. And let me tell you, it has had a major affect on me to the point to where I was ready to have a nervous break down.
My weight was going up and down. My hair was breaking off. I was eating more, and days I was eating less. In the midst of all the stress we moved, and I had no idea how we were going to pull that off but we did. And that’s when I looked in the mirror one day….hair pulled back in a leave-in conditioned head in desperate need of washing, dingy clothes. I was becoming a mess because I had been like that for days.
When I looked in the mirror I was like, “oh hell no!” I was not going to let myself go. So I went with a quick change of pace. And as time went by my stylist noticed that I was having some confidence issues which I never really have if at all so we went to try something different. I went through a wardrobe transformation that lead to me purge my wardrobe — out with the old and in with the new. It made a huge difference to me because I was not only dealing with the pressures of life, but I was getting back to “self.”
The next level of transformation came with a bit of surprise because it meant letting go of the gray hair. Letting go of the feeling old and in despair. Letting go of feeling like it was the end of the world. My self-esteem was feeling challenged more than I had ever realized. And to be honest, it takes a lot for me to get that low within myself. I talk about about helping others find or create a new look that I found myself being my own client. Isn’t that ironic? I refused to be defeated by life’s challenges so I decided to do something about it.
A new hair style, new clothes, shoes, oh yeah, I went the whole nine yards. But I didn’t stop there. As I was starting to feel better, dealing with the stress a lot better. I wanted something a little more extreme. This is where clothes and hair can change your persona in a New York minute.
I am about to turn 50 in two months. I did not want to see my birthday with the same look, same worries, and same BS stress. BOOM!!! Hello sexy me! When you are feeling down you have to start to think of the positive moments in your life and what they mean to you. What makes you happy. Where in your inner self are you the happiest? This is what I had to do — start thinking about where I was the happiest within myself and go to that place and let it come alive.
I look in the mirror now and I am like “Oh, yeah–I am loving it!!!” Because it is one thing to lose yourself entirely, and it is another thing to bring yourself back from a brink of destruction. And when you do, you can say you conquered your own battles.
In a period of three months I have undergone three transformations. This third one I am loving. I am style quite the trend setter because I enjoy keeping my style fresh and in the front of everyone’s mind. No way are you going to see me and say I don’t live by my own standards. No way are you ever going to that about as an aspiring representative of the fashion industry.
Now let’s talk about fashion. My favorite picks include this cute top I found on Amazon while totally looking for something entirely different. l love it because it has the high-low affect, pretty lace trim and it’s shear. I have a cute black kami I can wear underneath.
Now this was paired with a pair of skinny jeans and sexy strap up high heel sandals. I don’t have normal casual Fridays. I have to be bone tired to walk into the office wearing flats, leggings and a shirt. That is when everyone is asking me if I feel ok. I just like to keep the fashionista going. Except on the weekends when I don’t have to leave the house, then I am in my own world.
So I thought I would pair this pretty top with some skinny dark gray jeans. It is like I said in one of my Facebook posts, why dress my age when I can have so much fun. My daughter turned me on to skinny jeans years back and I have been hooked every since. The possibilities are endless and it comes with knowing how to where them and what to wear them with. Trust me…not everyone can pull of wearing skinny jeans.
Keeping the ensemble going I looked up a couple of different pair of high heel sandals that I thought would work for this ensemble. Of course, I went for black because that is what works best for this. I didn’t want to throw in any color to take away from the original look I was going for. And with skinny jeans you really have to pick and choose shoes carefully because you want to go too bulky and you don’t want to go too sporty depending on what type of look you’re going for. Coordination is everything.
To finish off my look, I picked these — because, you know, I have to have something to switch between. That’s just me.
First are these double strapped high heel sandals with side zipper. I like these so much that I may get these either in nude or olive green, or the powder blue. These can be worn with a variety of looks — again it’s all in the coordinating with the right ensemble or dress. They are sexy, flirty, and fun.
When I am not wearing these with my ensemble I will be sporting the strap up high heel sandals.
These shoes are bound to be the center of discussion. The picture the top was shown in on Amazon showed the model wearing strap up high heel sandals, so, naturally when I saw these I thought why not. They totally work with the ensemble and gives me the look I want to achieve.
With my ensemble complete, my look says I am back and I am ready. And I can take on anything you throw at me.
I was really struggling and I did not realize how much until that one day I looked in the mirror. And sometimes that is all it takes is one look to realize where you are in life.
My daughter lives with someone who told me that because she had no man in her life that she didn’t have to spend so much caring about her appearance. And I thought even if you don’t have someone in your life you should care someone about how you look — but I guess that is the way some people are. Everyone has their own way of thinking.
In short, I became my own client, picked myself up, found my inner self, became reacquainted with who I am and I am back. No matter what life throws at you, remember to take care of yourself inside and out, and remember to love ever bit of you.
If are looking to create a look like this or a new look suitable to your individual taste, email me and lets get together to talk about creating a new you.